Golden and Noble Works


“A wife too should regard her duties in the same light, as she suckles the child, rocks and bathes it, and cares for it in other ways; and as she busies herself with other duties and renders help and obedience to her husband. These are truly golden and noble works."
Martin Luther

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Pastor Appreciation Month


I know you ladies out there love your pastors so I wanted to make sure you knew that October is Pastor Appreciation Month. If your husband is like mine he'll poo-poo this and may even throw the letter and poster about this (from Synod) that comes in the mail away when (or if) he gets it. Last year I managed to secretly intercept these and had our church secretary put something in the newsletter about it.

We all know very well that our pastor husbands do a lot for their congregation. I think our husbands need to know that what they do doesn't go unnoticed and is, hopefully, appreciated.

Here is a list I found on Synod's website of ways your congregation can show this appreciation. You may want to have it added to next Sunday's bulletin.

Simple acts that feed a shepherd…

1. Pray for your pastor.

Ask God to shower your pastor with an abundance of love, hope, and joy, as he pursues the activities of ministry for you and your family.

2. Identify a special committee to “care for pastor”.

This is a group of people in your congregation with the gift for caring. Their work is completely separate from the elders, church council, or other governing board of the congregation. They represent, serve, and advocate for the needs of the pastor, and lead the rest of the congregation in the dynamics of caring for him and his family.

3. Express appreciation, spoken and written.

A spoken compliment is always welcome. A written one can be read over and over again. Tell pastor’s wife something nice about him, she’ll appreciate it and he will hear about it later. For the same reason, compliment him to his children.

4. Celebrate with a special meal

Host an annual celebration at which your pastor and his family are the honored guests.

5. Respect his time.

When possible, give advance notice about meetings, confirmation parties, invitation to rehearsal dinners, and other events to which he will be invited.

6. Live in peace.

Appreciation is more than cards and gifts, it’s an attitude. Pastors sometimes face a great deal of criticism, both to their face, and behind their back. Speak well of your pastor when you hear him criticized.

7. Encourage his personal interests.

Find out what your pastor likes. Is he interested in baseball? How about music? Does he golf? He will feel appreciated when you discover and support the interests of his wife as well.

8. Lovingly insist on “time off”.

Your pastor will need to take time for renewal and rest, but may feel as though there is too much work to get done. Help him know that he not only has permission to get appropriate rest and relaxation, but that it will benefit his ministry and provide a good model for the members.

9. Support a strategy for professional connections.

Your pastor desires to be the best he can be in serving you, and will need to remain current with continuing education. Encourage him to meet regularly with other pastors. Your financial and emotional support in this regard is vital.

10. Encourage time with his loved ones.

Ask if he has scheduled a “date night” and “family night”? Offer ideas about babysitting, if that would help.

11. Respect the dinner hour.

Your pastor will feel obligated to answer the phone when it rings, so discover when he and his family typically sit down for dinner, and plan to contact him at a different time.

12. Show special attention to his wife, but treat his children the same way you treat other children.

2 comments:

  1. My family sent a very well written card to Adam. He was very touched. I actually loved his reaction...."that's why God gave me my gifts, to serve his children."

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  2. What a great post! So often I take for granted all that my husband does. I'm not referring only to his "pastorship." (or is it "pastorhood"?) He is on-call for the sheep, and yet he is on-call for his family as well. It's nice to be remembered with an act of kindness. I can take the extra time to fix a favorite meal of his. The extra effort is worth it.

    Thanks, Aubri, for the reminder that kindness comes from the heart.

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